When a loved one passes away, the pain of loss may be all-consuming. Grief can make even the simplest tasks feel overwhelming, as you wonder if the pain will ever end. While recovering from the loss of a loved one is never easy, grief does lessen with time. Try these steps which may help in coping with grief:
Don’t Rush the Grieving Process
Grieving takes time. Don’t expect to feel “normal” immediately. Allow yourself time to accept and address the pain of your loss. Some people come to terms with loss in days or weeks, where others take years. You may even feel okay one day, and then have the grief return in a very raw, painful way the following day. This is normal. There’s no correct, or even ideal, timetable for coping with grief.
Talk with Someone
While grief cannot be magically cured with good advice or carefully chosen words, do not underestimate the value of finding someone patient and kind to talk to. Often, this may be a friend or family member who also knew the deceased, so you can share stories of his or her life. You many also consider exploring grief support groups or professional counseling. Grief can be a lonely experience, so do not isolate yourself or internalize your emotions. Surround yourself with those you care about, so you do not experience grief alone.
Understand Everyone Experiences Grief Differently
After losing a loved one, you might look around and wonder how others seem capable of handling everything better than you. You may get frustrated seeing others heal more quickly while you are still reeling from loss. Everyone experiences grief differently. There is no such thing as a “normal grieving process.” So, be patient and accepting of those around you as well as yourself.
Ask for Help When You Need It
You do not always have to put on a brave face. If you need patience from colleagues, let them know. If you are struggling to get through daily tasks, ask for help. It is normal to feel overwhelmed, but you do not have to keep all your grief and stress inside. When you need to rest, rest. Do not push yourself. You will eventually adapt to your new reality, but it will take time.
Take Care of Yourself
Grief can quickly deplete your emotional reserves and even have a negative impact on your physical health. Putting some focus on your own well-being can help you cope with the stress of grief. Eat regular, well-balanced meals. Go for a walk or head to the gym for a brisk workout. Get plenty of sleep, but don’t overdo it. Too much sleep can just drag you further into depression.
Grieving the loss of a loved one is a taxing experience. Take one step at a time, and day-by-day you will start feeling like yourself again.